Dear friend,
A Jewish wedding, it’s so happy, wonderful, and joyous.
Then comes life!!!
When Yitzchak married Rivka, we are told that Yitzchak’s father Avraham sent someone to “find a wife for his son”.
When Rivka was found, she was asked, and she agreed to go and marry this individual that although she heard a lot about was still unknown to her, as much as she was unknown to him.
Eventually they meet, marry, live together and then we are told “they loved each other”
What is love?
Love is the result of a lot of hard work, commitment, dedication, and discovery of the self through the discovery of the spouse.
We are often afraid of entering into a relationship or opening ourselves up to other people. The Torah teaches us here, amongst many other powerful life lessons, that being open to others, welcoming challenges and taking safe risks, while scary, are amongst the most rewarding and fulfilling things in life.
Rabbi Mendel & Elke Zaltzman
Shabbos Times
Friday, November 18
Candle Lighting: 4:18pm
Evening service: 4:20pm
Saturday, November 19 Morning service: 10:00am
Kiddush Brunch: 12:00pm Evening service: 4:20pm
Shabbos ends: 5:19pm
Kiddush Sponsored by Timur and Tanya Fanshteyn
in honor of their Son Levi's Bar Mitzvah
Mazal Tov!!
Izzy owned a small deli in Stamford Hill, in London. One day, a tax inspector knocked on his door and questioned him about his recent tax return. Izzy had reported a net profit of $250.000 for the year and he wanted to know all about it. "It’s like this," said Izzy. "I work like a maniac all year round and all of my family helps me out whenever they can. My deli is closed only five days a year. That’s how I made $250,000."
"It's not your income that bothers us," said the taxman. "It's the business travel deductions of $80,000 that worries us. You entered on the tax return that you and your wife made 28 business trips to Israel, Italy, Switzerland, France, the US, Hawaii, and the Caribbean Islands. What are all these business trips about?"
"Oh," said Izzy, smiling. "I forgot to tell you that we also deliver!"
WEEKLY eTORAH
"G‑d helps those who help themselves"
Is this statement heresy? Does it deny the hand of G‑d in our successes? I recall a conversation with a self-proclaimed atheist who used the expression very cynically, suggesting that his considerable achievements were entirely his own and that G‑d had nothing to do with it.
I beg to differ. To my mind, "G‑d helps those who help themselves" is a perfectly religious statement. What it means is absolutely consistent with traditional Jewish thinking. G‑d does indeed help us to accomplish things, but He requires us to help ourselves first. If we just sit back and wait for miracles to happen, we may be disappointed.
"G‑d will bless you in all that you do," (Deuteronomy 15:18) makes it very clear. Our blessings come from G‑d, but we must do. Of course, we believe in miracles—but we mustn't rely on them. The combination of our own hard work and efforts coupled with G‑d's blessing is the ideal road to success.
The classic analogy is the farmer. He can plough and plant, sow and shvitz from today until tomorrow but if the rains don't come nothing will grow. Conversely, all the rains in the world will not cause anything to grow if the farmer hasn't planted first. After the farmer has done his work and the rains come from above, there will be a plentiful crop. And it's the same story whether we are farmers or shopkeepers, professionals or artisans, employers or employees.
This week's Parshah tells of Isaac taking Rebecca as his wife. "And Isaac brought her to the tent of Sarah his mother." Rashi, quoting the Midrash, explains this to mean more than the obvious. When she entered the tent, it was as if she was Sarah, Isaac's mother. Because Sarah was of such saintly character, she was granted three special miracles. Her Shabbat candles burned the entire week, her dough was particularly blessed, and a heavenly cloud attached itself to her tent. When Sarah died, these blessings disappeared. When Rebecca arrived on the scene, they resumed immediately. In fact, this was a clear sign to Isaac that Rebecca was indeed his soul mate and that the shidduch was made in Heaven.
Each of those three miracles, however, required some form of human input first. A candle and fire had to be found, the dough had to be prepared and a tent had to be pitched before G‑d would intervene and make those miracles happen. In other words, He does help us but we must help ourselves first.
It's a little like the fellow who would make a fervent prayer to G‑d every week that he win the lottery. After many months and no jackpot in sight, he lost his faith and patience. In anguished disappointment, he vented his frustration with the Almighty. "Oh, G‑d! For months I've been praying to you. Why haven't you helped me win the lottery all this time?" Whereupon a heavenly voice was heard saying, "Because you haven't bought a ticket!"
I wish it were that simple to win lotteries. But the fact is that it is the same in all our endeavors. G‑d helps those who help themselves. May we all do our part. Please G‑d, He will do His.
